A lot of the time, as a society, we tend to think about confidence in something of a strange way. We act as though it’s kind of a binary thing. As though confidence is something that you either do or do not have. If you’re a confident person, great! You can enjoy all of the success and benefits that come with it! But if you don’t have that much confidence, well, guess you’re just doomed!
Obviously, that’s not the case. The truth is that confidence is a spectrum that we all move up and down on all the time. However, it’s often far easier for your confidence to get knocked back down than it is to build it back up. Building your confidence back up after something has brought it down, whatever that might be, can actually feel like one of the hardest things that you could possibly do. However, that doesn’t need to be the case. Here are just a few things that you can do to finally start getting your confidence back.
We all know the old saying, “smile and the whole world smiles with you,” right? Well, it turns out that that’s actually a lot of less of a cliche than you might think. It turns out that smiling is one of the best ways to bring up your confidence levels. Smiling literally tricks your brain into feeling happier and more confident no matter what situation you’re in. Not only that but a bright smile is going to make other people far more inclined to connect with you. Of course, a lot of people feel like their teeth are getting in the way of being able to smile confidently. Luckily, there are plenty of things that you can do to improve your smile and start regaining your confidence. These can range from whitening solutions to dental bridges to replace missing teeth.
Change your style
One of the most common things that can cause a lot of people to lose their confidence is that they simply don’t feel like their style has much to offer. A lot of the time this is not because there’s anything wrong with their clothes but rather that they’ve just been stuck with the same wardrobe for so long that it’s just started to look and feel stale. If you’re wearing the same things that you’ve been wearing for years then it’s never going to feel special is it? So why not try something new? Experiment with clothes and styles that you might not previously have thought you could pull off. If you feel good when you’re wearing something, it’s going to look great no matter what. You might even want to go even further by mixing things up with your hair and makeup routine. A radical hair cut recolouring could well be a great way to make a significant change that gives you that all-important confidence boost.
Change your surroundings
A lot of people assume that their sense of self-confidence is a totally internal thing. However, that’s simply not the case. The truth is that a lot of the time your confidence can be influenced by outside forces. If you find yourself part of some kind of friendship group or work environment where people are constantly putting you down, it might be time to walk away from that. A lot of people choose to filter their own lack of confidence through trying to bring other people down to their level and that’s just not something that you need to deal with. Getting out of toxic relationships or reporting coworkers to your employer is often the best way to deal with that. It’s tough enough to build your self-confidence without other people trying to pull you down.
Get to know yourself
One of the most common issues that a lot of people have when it comes to their confidence is that they don’t know themselves that well. This is especially true when it comes to body image. A lot of people have such a negative idea of their own body that they end up forgetting what they actually look like. They hide their body and always assume the worst. One of the best things that you can do to start feeling more confident is to get to know your body. Stand in front of the mirror naked and actually pay attention to how you look. Take in the things you don’t like but also think about the things that you do like. By doing that, you’re going to be able to remember that your body is no better or worse than anyone else’s. It’s just unique to you and that’s a wonderful thing!
Fake it til you make it
Here’s the big secret that most “confident” people don’t want you to know: most of them are faking it. The truth is that confidence is as much about how you project yourself as anything else. If you can act confident then the world will be convinced. And the really amazing thing about that is that, if you project that kind of confidence for long enough, it will start to impact how you feel internally. Essentially, if you can fake confidence for long enough, you will start to believe your own hype. After a while, you won’t even be able to remember a time where you didn’t feel confident enough to strut your no matter where you are or what you’re doing.
The truth about confidence is that it’s never really a permanent thing. You may build your confidence up only to have something come up that knocks you back down a little bit. The thing to remember is that, whatever knocks you might take to your confidence, there are always things that you can do to build it back up. Once you know that it’s possible, it becomes a whole lot easier to turn it into a reality. Confidence is maleable, like pretty much anything else. Remembering that can make it a whole lot harder for your confidence to take a permanent knock.